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Friday, November 13, 2009
"LIFE IS NOT FAIR"
That is what I tell my kids all the time-
When they are complaining that someone got TWO cookies and they got one- or someone got to stay up later- or go to more birthday parties- or do less work..... the list goes on and I try to remind them it would be CRAZY if we tried to make everything exactly fair.
So how come I dont remember that when Ty is coughing so hard his whole head is red and I am afraid he wont stop-
Or when I am carrying him up at night and have to avoid looking at his little neck because I dont like to see the trach hole-
Or when I cant take him out to the park to watch his brothers and sisters because his lungs might get too dry and then we are back to the coughing-
Or when Ben has had his trach out for a year and 1/2 and is doing SO well and his doctors tell me he needs it back in. Whaaaaat? How is that fair? How can that be what we need to do to him?
He is already fighting so hard in his little body that cant keep up with his mind.
Why cant I take all their troubles for them?
I know life is not fair-It is not SUPPOSSED to be fair. I just need reminding sometimes.
Because usually I can remember how blessed I am that these little boys are even still here.
They remind me that they dont even see their lives in anyother way but loved and wanted.
Their faces remind me that WE get their sweet spirits and faces and bodies in our home.
That they NEVER get tired of hugging us and loving us.
They are not complaining that life is not fair.
But sometimes I just want to stomp and yell for them.... "ITS NOT FAIR!"
When they are complaining that someone got TWO cookies and they got one- or someone got to stay up later- or go to more birthday parties- or do less work..... the list goes on and I try to remind them it would be CRAZY if we tried to make everything exactly fair.
So how come I dont remember that when Ty is coughing so hard his whole head is red and I am afraid he wont stop-
Or when I am carrying him up at night and have to avoid looking at his little neck because I dont like to see the trach hole-
Or when I cant take him out to the park to watch his brothers and sisters because his lungs might get too dry and then we are back to the coughing-
Or when Ben has had his trach out for a year and 1/2 and is doing SO well and his doctors tell me he needs it back in. Whaaaaat? How is that fair? How can that be what we need to do to him?
He is already fighting so hard in his little body that cant keep up with his mind.
Why cant I take all their troubles for them?
I know life is not fair-It is not SUPPOSSED to be fair. I just need reminding sometimes.
Because usually I can remember how blessed I am that these little boys are even still here.
They remind me that they dont even see their lives in anyother way but loved and wanted.
Their faces remind me that WE get their sweet spirits and faces and bodies in our home.
That they NEVER get tired of hugging us and loving us.
They are not complaining that life is not fair.
But sometimes I just want to stomp and yell for them.... "ITS NOT FAIR!"
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such a great post. we all need reminders that life is so not fair. i especially tend to forget that and do everything in my power to make it fair, but it usually doesn't change the outcome unfortunately. you seem to have such a great attitude about everything in your life, even though it would be so easy not to. oh and those cupcakes are so cute. they look delicious too. you are so creative.
Such a great reminder. I fall into the same thing sometimes with some of the challenges I have and then I have to realize how blessed I am and that everything is going to be okay. You are an amazing mom and I am so impressed with how well you handle the great challenges you have been given. Ty and Ben are so lucky to have you and Jonathan as their parents!
You are right on with this post! I have often thought this for myself and others. Our prayers are always with you. We love you!!
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